Couples who suppress anger are twice as likely to face early death as those who express it, says University of Michigan psychology professor emeritus Ernest Harburg. A good fight with your spouse could be the key to a happy marriage.
The Epicurean Man and I had a ” good fight” last week. After many years running my own real estate business , The Epicurean Man came to me with a proposition. Let’s become partner’s. I shall discuss a little of our back-story by saying, we are both the same sign ” Taurus ” ok enough said ha ha. Seriously, stubborn as hell we both have accused each other on many occasions during our marriage of being ” Wrong and Strong”.
Was I surprised that there would be major conflict around a “partnership” between us in this newly proposed business venture? Absolutely NO. 50/50 equal partners, I run the daily business details, hiring, office management etc. Ultimately though if it came down to a stand-off on any important decisions pertaining to business,The Epicurean Man gets to make the final decision. I went ballistic, ” No way, this is my expertise, non-negotiable, I am out” I protested to The Epicurean Man. ” Naima you may have the expertise when it comes to real estate, but you have always been a one woman shop and worked from home. I am running a corporate office with over 20 employees and have dealt with many corporations, making huge decisions”. I contested with anger, then took a second and said ” Give me a week, let me think about this”
“Compromise. To solve marital conflicts, you have to find a common ground to compromise. You have to meet in the middle and make an agreement about the issues that you both are trying to resolve. If one is not willing to compromise, then the problem will not be resolved.”…. Ernest Harburg
Over the last few days, I gave this whole situation a lot of thought, humble enough to admit to my lack of business acumen, secondly that The Epicurean Man is investing a substantial dollar amount to the start-up of opening an office, as well as operating expenses. Fast forward to today, I am happy to announce the opening of Vital Properties. A partnership between Naima and The Epicurean Man.
A good fight that is key to our happy marriage